Forgiveness is hard. And sometimes, the hardest people to forgive are those who never apologized. That was my situation — having to forgive someone who never acknowledged the hurt they caused. But what I learned was that forgiveness isn’t about them; it’s about me.
I held onto resentment for years, thinking I was punishing my ex. But in reality, I was only hurting myself. The anger I carried kept me bound in a prison of my own making. It prevented me from moving forward and embracing the healing God had for me.
One day, I felt God whisper, “Let it go.” It was clear that my healing was tied to my ability to forgive — even without the apology. So, I did the hard thing. I forgave. Not for my ex, but for myself.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing the wrongs done to you. It means releasing the hold that the offense has over you. It means choosing peace over pain, and trusting that God will handle what’s been done.
Takeaway: You don’t need an apology to forgive. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, not the other person.